We’re 6 weeks into the new year, time to take stock and see which of my resolutions I have been sticking to and which I haven’t.
1) Reinforcing good mental health habits:
In an ideal world, I come home from work, do half an hour of yoga or meditation, then cook a healthy balanced meal and sit down at the table to enjoy it. I switch off all my devices and distractions, read a book and go to sleep peacefully. In the real world, I buy a bottle of wine on my way home from work, I order take away as soon as I get in the door. I plonk myself into bed, find a show to watch online and eat my dinner in bed before I pass out.
I’m exaggerating a bit, of course, but some of my days definitely look more like the latter description. I’m working on it though and try to squeeze in a bit of yoga here and there (read 10 mins of light stretching once a week). I’ve just finished a great book, Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi, and need to find another good read to keep me away from the laptop at night. Work in progress, as always.
2) Stay in touch with my family on a more regular basis:
I haven’t done too bad on this one but it’s too early to tell yet. Plenty of phone calls were made in the haze of a new years resolution high, but then February came… In the evenings I often feel too tired for phone calls, I’m not a phone person anyway, and tend to say to myself ‘I’ll do it next week.’
Why can’t grandparents be on social media? Staying in touch without talking is so much easier. At least I’m planning another visit home soon and will be able to catch up with my folks in person, which is always nicer.
3) Focus on the positive:
In order to do that I started a jar of good memories, filling it with great things that happened to me during a week. I’ve been keeping up with this resolution and it has worked well for me.
Every Sunday I recap my week and write down one or two things that were positive and made me happy. Those are often small things, such as meeting friends for dinner or having a quiet night in. Sometimes they can be bigger, like booking a holiday (I’m going to freakin Cancun!!!) or getting my work contract extended.
I’ve noticed that by actively thinking about what was good in a week, the less positive things that happened are put into perspective as well and don’t seem that terrible anymore. So the week when we had rats in the house and the water stopped working, I really didn’t think there was anything positive to report. But when I thought about it, I remembered that that same week I also treated myself to a nice lunch on a particularly sunny Friday. It wasn’t so bad after all. P.S. The rats are gone now.